03 Mar 09 Promise Me Something

I know you’re hurting.

When I was unemployed and underemployed in 2003-2004, those were very dark times for me.  The stress of not being able to provide for my family overwhelmed me to the point where I became seriously depressed.  Seriously depressed. The pain I felt was nearly unbearable.  I found a psychiatrist and therapist and took some medicine and talked with other people. I was involved in a church community.

Depression clouds everything

Still, there were times I thought about ending it all. Yes, there were rare times of what they call “suicidal ideation“.  I was open about those thoughts and feelings.  I made myself accountable to others who would ask me:

• “Are you taking your medicine?”
• “Are you going to your appointments?”
• “How are you really doing today?”

Depression clouds everything, especially in a job search.  When you’re depressed you don’t feel like you have anything to offer anyone.  Maybe this hits us guys more than the ladies because we get so much of our identity from what we do for a living.  When that is taken away from us, we feel like part of our soul has been ripped out.

There are days you don’t even want to wake up.  You want the pain to go away.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Stay in the battle

Promise me something.  No matter how bad it gets – don’t give up.  Stay in the battle.  Look at yourself in the mirror – no, STARE DOWN the person in the mirror – and repeat these two statements of fact:

1. You are better than you think you are.
2. You can do more than you think you can.

The biggest reason I created the How I Got My Job project is for times like this. Surround yourself with success.  Just hearing that someone else got a job can give you hope.  Listen to these stories over and over again.  Let them sink into your consciousness as you begin to believe in yourself again.

Read this excellent article from Christopher S. Penn about How Your iPod Can Protect Your Mind.

Get help

Finally, get help. No man is an island.  We were made to be social creatures, and we need to get and stay connected with others.  We live in an age now where connecting online is so easy.  Even more importantly, though, get connected to people in-person.  You need to find people to meet up and network with.  Find people who will inspire and encourage you, people who are not afraid to tell it like it is.  Heck, feel free to get in touch with me. I try to make myself as approachable as possible.  Get some therapy if needed.

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22 Dec 08 You won’t get that job without this

You probably won’t get that job (or keep it) without this…

I’ve interviewed several people so far for How I Got My Job, the job-hunting success stories podcast you need to check out and tell your friends about.  One common theme in every interview so far is this advice when approaching a job interview situation: be honest.  It doesn’t do anyone well for you to present yourself as anything other than who you are.

Be authentic.  Tell authentic stories about yourself and what you ‘ve done that fit what the hiring manager – or in many cases now – hiring managers are looking for.  That is the best way to set yourself up not only for job-hunting success but also for career management success in general.

Some specific interviews where this hits home:

• Trish Forant told the hiring manager that yes, she could probably sell ice to an eskimo, but also said that selling probably wasn’t the best opportunity for her, of the two they had open:  How I Got My Job as an IT Instructor – Trish Forant
• Suki Fuller told a panel of executives that were interviewing her that she was nervous. After all it was intimidating to be surrounded by a group of folks who were going to grill you on your abilities as a research analyst in competitive intelligence: How I Got My Job in Competitive Intelligence – Suki Fuller
• John Buehler said that hiring managers are going to look to put you into specific hypothetical situations in the interview to see who you really are: How I Got My Job as a Chief Technical Officer – John Buehler

Naturally, there is a point where you can be too honest, and these folks who’ve shared their stories talk about that, as well. What about you? What do you think? In what ways has being authentic helped you in your job search and career? How honest is too honest? Are honesty and authenticity the same?

• For more job-hunting success stories, head over to How I Got My Job
• For more other job-hunting and career development advice, be sure to check out more stuff here at Get That Job!

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13 May 08 Utterz from the Road – Making your own opportunities

26 Mar 08 How much does the jobless rate affect your job search?

The Cincinnati Business Courier recently reported that the Ohio jobless (Why they don’t just say unemployment?) rate fell in February. When I first started this blog back in 2002, I often wondered about the unemployment rate.

It’s really a bit of an inaccurate number, when you consider that it’s the number of people filing for unemployment each week. It doesn’t count those who are still unemployed yet have either stopped meeting the reporting requirements or have had their unemployment benefits expire.

The rate describes a macroeconomic condition; i.e., a condition of unemployment as a whole. More importantly, I also found, at least for me, that I began using the unemployment rate as an excuse for not keeping up with my job search as intensely as I could have been.

So the jobless rate is falling or rising… whatever.

The statewide/national jobless rate shouldn’t affect your own job search and career management. Stay focused on your own job search. Companies still have positions to be filled. Your industry (also known as “vertical” by some) may have high demand for labor. Don’t use the rate as an excuse.

Am I off base here? Does any of this make sense? What do you think?

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22 Jan 08 How to show compassion to a job seeker

Not much time to blog right now, but I do want to make sure you read Jason’s post aon Showing Compassion to a Job Seeker.

I’ve got another announcement coming in the next week or so about a project I’ll be doing that I hope will further enhance this blog’s usefulness.

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09 Jan 08 Show confidence without being arrogant

I was motivated to write this post from reading an article on Monster about Ten Tech Interview Errors. Specifically, I noticed the following passage from the article:

Too many techies come across as arrogant in interviews, says Sean Chou, CTO of Fieldglass, a software technology company. “A lot of techies are very talented, but what comes out is arrogance,” he says.

Confidence is desirable, not arrogance. Arrogance suggests “they can’t be a team player,” Chou notes.

So I posed the following question on Twitter earlier:

What ways can you show confidence without it coming across as arrogance?

I could have clarified that I was looking with respect to an interview situation, but I preferred asking an open-ended question (i.e., without context), just to see what the responses would have been. Here are some of the responses so far, again to my open-ended question:

• matthewebel Not breaking into a cold sweat when some director asks you to make a pass at iJustine.
• mindofandre I always like to attribute my knowledge due to the fact that others have helped me learn. You haven’t come this far without others.
• TheSatch I think a key for me is being willing to point to and discuss my own flaws, sometimes seriously and sometimes with humor.
• CollinDouma Best way to show confidence over arrgnc. Listen first, ask 3 questions for each of theirs + Hold your cool when “they” are proved wrong.
• jasonalba research the word “assertive” … that might have what you are looking for. very powerful.
• tonysteward 1. Never offer criticism without a prepared solution 2. Arrogance makes someone unreasonable – be reasonable. 3. Confidence doesn’t need everyone to agree – arrogance demands it or villianizes.
• fairminder state your opinion as fact and support it with an example from your experience. Quote other experts – birds of a feather…
• steveames One way is to be quiet – in other words, don’t try to show confidence. Just exude it…
• markbaars You need to KNOW that you’re confident, that people like you and that you can do whatever you want + KNOW that you’re NICE
• Sourcerer be the one to greet and make others comfortable at meeting/event, also witty self-deprecation goes a long way
• RichBecker Relevant stories play better than laundry lists.

What do you think? What are some ways to show confidence, or as Jason Alba put it, assertiveness, without it being perceived as arrogance?

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19 Dec 07 How do you face intimidating opportunities?

Do you run toward or away opportunities that you know would require a change in your character? What I talk about here could be applied not only to job searching, but to life in general.

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29 Jun 07 Read local business journals for market info potential leads

Do you read the local business journal the city where you live or want to work? Years ago I started doing that, just to see what companies are doing in the area and as a potential source for job leads, a way to get an understanding of the job market. I can’t remember whether the Cincinnati Business Courier does it, but the Dayton Business Journal publishes these lists every week of fastest growing companies, top minority-owned businesses, etc. I liked looking at those lists because it gave the name of the top official as well as other relevant information for generating leads.

I’m currently have the RSS feed for the Cincinnati Business Courier’s Breaking News in my Bloglines collection. I often don’t know what to make of some of the information I read, though.

On one hand I hear that unemployment rates are up slightly, but then I read that the job market for IT professionals is pretty good. I even saw this morning that Cincinnati is ranked 18th on Forbes magazine recent Best Cities for Young Professionals list.

Does it seem confusing to you? It does to me, sometimes. Then I look at the details and see that the unemployment article is talking about Ohio metro areas overall. I guess that’s what we need to do – look at the details a bit more closely.

Also, I think it’s a good idea not to let negative information put a cloud over your job search efforts. Doing so can lead to making excuses. You’ll be tempted, as I am, to think and say things like, “Oh, the job market’s just down; that’s why I’m not able to find work.” Let’s think and believe bigger than that.

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23 Jun 07 Overcoming Excuses in a Job Search (video)

In lieu of a text post, and as part of the testing effort for Blogger in Draft, I’ve uploaded a video about a book I’ve started re-reading. I also mentioned the Journey Inside My Mind Podcast but forgot to mention the URL: http://jimmpodcast.com.

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12 Apr 07 SUCCESS STORY – Getting a job despite your efforts not to

Sometimes the need is just so great that the company will jump through hoops to get and retain you, despite efforts you might make to the contrary.

I talked with a woman today who does Accounts Receivables about how she got her current job. She did that work for a group of doctor’s offices before she went on maternity leave. She wound up finishing her Accounting degree before she came off leave, so she opted to look for a full-time job outside of her job with the doctor’s offices.

She said she applied everywhere and doesn’t remember when she was contacted by the recruiter who was hiring for her current position. Then when it came time for the interview, she had to reschedule a couple of times.

While on the job for awhile, the company came in and eliminated half of the department. Thinking her own job was in jeopardy, she found another one and put in her notice. The VP of Operations begged her to stay and sent a message to her boss demanding that she give the accountant a raise.

Please share your own job-hunting success stories here so everyone can know they too can Get That Job!

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