03 Mar 09 Promise Me Something

: Image by paul+photos=moody via Flickr

I know you’re hurting.

When I was unemployed and underemployed in 2003-2004, those were very dark times for me. The stress of not being able to provide for my family overwhelmed me to the point where I became seriously depressed. Seriously depressed. The pain I felt was nearly unbearable. I found a psychiatrist and therapist and took some medicine and talked with other people. I was involved in a church community.

Depression clouds everything

Still, there were times I thought about ending it all. Yes, there were rare times of what they call “suicidal ideation“. I was open about those thoughts and feelings. I made myself accountable to others who would ask me:

“Are you taking your medicine?”
“Are you going to your appointments?”
“How are you really doing today?”

Depression clouds everything, especially in a job search. When you’re depressed you don’t feel like you have anything to offer anyone. Maybe this hits us guys more than the ladies because we get so much of our identity from what we do for a living. When that is taken away from us, we feel like part of our soul has been ripped out.

There are days you don’t even want to wake up. You want the pain to go away.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Stay in the battle

Promise me something. No matter how bad it gets – don’t give up. Stay in the battle. Look at yourself in the mirror – no, STARE DOWN the person in the mirror – and repeat these two statements of fact:

You are better than you think you are.
You can do more than you think you can.

The biggest reason I created the How I Got My Job project is for times like this. Surround yourself with success. Just hearing that someone else got a job can give you hope. Listen to these stories over and over again. Let them sink into your consciousness as you begin to believe in yourself again.

Read this excellent article from Christopher S. Penn about How Your iPod Can Protect Your Mind.

Get help

Finally, get help. No man is an island. We were made to be social creatures, and we need to get and stay connected with others. We live in an age now where connecting online is so easy. Even more importantly, though, get connected to people in-person. You need to find people to meet up and network with. Find people who will inspire and encourage you, people who are not afraid to tell it like it is. Heck, feel free to get in touch with me. I try to make myself as approachable as possible. Get some therapy if needed.

To share this post on Twitter, please copy and paste the following text:

RT @danieljohnsonjr: (via Get That Job!) Promise Me Something: http://bit.ly/promise-me

Respond to Depression (articlesbase.com)
Six Great Ways to Vent Your Frustrations (lifehack.org)

Did you like this post? Please subscribe right now. Get this and other job-hunting and career-development content from the source at www.getthatjobonline.com.

Want to hear how others got their jobs? Listen to How I Got My Job - the job-hunting success stories podcast at http://www.howigotmyjob.com

Check out Daniel Johnson, Jr. on LinkedIn.

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Tags: Depression, job hunt, job search

Filed in attitude, dan's search, motivation, success stories with View Comments

10 Nov 07 The Impetus for a Job Change?

To say I’m upset is an understatement. In this Utterz from the Road (player embedded above), I talk about a “Coaching Memo” I received today that could very well be the impetus needed for me to make a job move. Please check out http://danieljohnsonjr.com/

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Filed in already employed, dan's search, job security, motivation with View Comments

12 Oct 07 Considering a job offer

Good morning, you wonderful people!

I have a decision I need to make about a job change very soon – even today. I was given a consulting-type job offer that I’m seriously considering.

So many things point to it being good; a lot of the opposites to my current position.

I’m working through concerns over whether I can really do this new job, because it’s different from what I’ve been doing. You see, in my current position, I get to be creative, and I’ve learned THAT is one of my strongest motivators.

I’m not sure that exists with this new job. But I’m considering taking it and then looking for something creative as a hobby outside of work. I mean, I already have creative hobbies outside of work, but continuing with them.

Another thing that strongly motivates me is that I can really do a good job at what I’ve been tasked to do; i.e., I want to set myself up for success in the work I do.

As I type that last sentence, it almost sounds like I’m limiting myself – maybe I am. In most of my adult life, I’ve not been one to take many risks, especially since I’m the primary breadwinner of our family.

Yet I can’t help think that this could be the Lord prompting me to “get out of the boat.”

I appreciate your thoughts and prayers and comments.

crossposted to Journey Inside My Mind Blog

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Filed in already employed, dan's search, motivation with View Comments

22 Mar 07 Make a Personal Connection!

Chris at LifeHack.org recently shared some thoughts on effective networking (“Meet People NOT Business Cards – lifehack.org“). If you’re like me, you’ve tended to use these events as opportunities to amass a big collection of business cards. But that’s not the point of the meeting, really, is it? Here are my comments to the article:

I hear you, Chris. I just read something along the same lines in Keith Ferrazzi’s book Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time. If you collect a bunch of business cards without making a personal connection, you’re left with a phone list from which to make cold calls.

Now, let’s transfer these thoughts into collecting contacts on internet social networks, okay?

I see people blindly adding friends on social networking sites like MySpace, LinkedIn, Twitter, and others, the same way people collect business cards. There are various reasons to do this; the most obvious is to make themselves look important, which is something that motivates some people. If people see someone with lots of contacts, they will begin to think of them as an expert in their field. I’m a bit torn on this myself, to be honest.

Just remember that the personal connection is what matters. What are you doing right now to make and reinforce the personal connection with your contacts? What are your thoughts on the effectiveness of amassing large numbers of contacts?

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Filed in advice, books, motivation, networking, toolkit with View Comments

10 Jan 07 You Are the Star of Your Show!

Okay, I realize this might sound a bit weird…

Some of you may know that I host and produce the Journey Inside My Mind Podcast, which I have done for over a year now. At the end of the theme, before the opening monologue, I have an audio clip that I created that goes like this:

Man:What happens when a man goes through his own portal?

Woman:We’ll see.

Announcer: Get ready… here’s Dan Johnson!
(applause and sound of kids cheering)

I love having that clip because it gets me charged up and ready to move on with the show.

I recently have started using that same audio clip as the Start Windows sound for my computer. So now, as I boot up my machine and log in, I get introduced!

Like I said, it may sound a bit weird. Maybe even a little corny. I don’t care. It charges me up for doing work.

What does this have to do with a job search? Well, in the same way, we all are the stars of our own show. Every day you get to live is a new palette for you to carve out a masterpiece. I think that how you approach it says a lot for your effectiveness. Sometimes we need something to inspire us to get started.

What inspires you to make it a great day?

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Filed in attitude, inspiration, motivation with View Comments

11 Dec 06 Give Yourself a Pep Talk

You’ve received no phone calls or contacts about jobs for which you’ve applied. You search job listings and don’t find openings that match your qualifications and experience. You might start to feel down.

I know because I have been there, am there, and will be there again. How can I get myself back up?

I think I need to give myself a pep talk. You might feel the same.

Every day and maybe throughout the day, I’m going to look the man in the mirror right in the eyes and say, “You are important. Your work is important. You are valuable. Someone wants to pay you for what you have to offer.”

I believe that. I’ve been working on believing in things that are not as tangible as I’d like them to be. I’ve started thinking big and dreaming big.

If I let myself get caught up in negative energy, it will eventually lead to more and more inaction.

“Your work is important. Someone wants to hire you. You just haven’t met each other yet.”

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Filed in attitude, inspiration, motivation with View Comments

26 Jun 03 Have the right perspective

“Anyone who sees in his own occupation merely a means of earning money degrades it; but he that sees in it a service to mankind ennobles both his labor and himself.” — A. Lawrence Lowell, also posted at QuotesBlog

Other Ways to Get That Job!

Get That Job! via RSS

Get That Job! via Google Reader

Filed in advice, attitude, inspiration, motivation, quotations with View Comments

03 Mar 09 Promise Me Something

Depression clouds everything

Stay in the battle

Get help

10 Nov 07 The Impetus for a Job Change?

12 Oct 07 Considering a job offer

22 Mar 07 Make a Personal Connection!

10 Jan 07 You Are the Star of Your Show!

11 Dec 06 Give Yourself a Pep Talk

26 Jun 03 Have the right perspective

Popular

Donate

Pages

Archives

Categories

Tags

Recent Posts

Recent Comments

Recently on How I Got My Job

Meta

03 Mar 09 Promise Me Something

Depression clouds everything

Stay in the battle

Get help

Related articles by Zemanta

10 Nov 07 The Impetus for a Job Change?

12 Oct 07 Considering a job offer

22 Mar 07 Make a Personal Connection!

10 Jan 07 You Are the Star of Your Show!

11 Dec 06 Give Yourself a Pep Talk

26 Jun 03 Have the right perspective

Popular

Donate

Pages

Archives

Categories

Tags

Recent Posts

Recent Comments

Recently on How I Got My Job

Meta